Letting Go Of Attachments: Stop Blocking What You Want!

Does this sound familiar?

You know the ins and outs of deliberate use of the Law of Attraction. You are doing your best to stay positive, to align vibrationally with the things and experiences you desire. You are doing your best, but still… no sign of your “results” are showing up in your physical reality.

That ideal job, amazing relationship, or financial abundance… why aren’t they showing up? It can be so discouraging!

One way many of us sabotage ourselves ALL the time is through attachment.

I am not talking about the Buddhist way of letting go of all of your desires in order to find enlightenment. I am talking about the limiting belief that what we want can only come in specific ways.

Yes, you are an extremely powerful creator and you are here creating within the physical world, but you are working with UNLIMITED POWER, so why would you put limits on what can be manifested and how it should come to you?

You are the focuser of the creative power of the universe, the power that comes from same energy that created all that is, and permeates every single thing in existence. It is flowing to you and through you and you direct this power through your beliefs (your filters). Your focus of this powerful force literally creates the reality you see before you.

Even those that truly understand their own power fall prey to the sabotaging effect of attachment. But, knowledge is power, and once this information sinks in, you will catch yourself in moments of attachment and by doing so, you can shift your thinking and let go of the beliefs that don’t serve you!

I can tell you that in my own experience, I have seen the power of letting go of attachments. I had goals just like everyone else, and I held certain “outcomes” as the focus of my energy. It’s fine to have dreams, goals and desires. That wasn’t what was tripping me up. What was I doing wrong?

I finally realized that I was seriously limiting myself. I had focused my attention on the “how” things would manifest. Not only “how”, but “when” and “with whom.” I had decided in my mind that what I wanted had to come to me in specific ways.

For example, about 20 years ago, I wanted a future with a specific person. I was attached to the idea that what I wanted (marriage and children) could only be with him. When it wasn’t happening within my time-frame, I became frustrated, discouraged and depressed. It seemed like I was never going to have what I wanted.

Let’s get real honest here. Have you ever wanted something so bad that you resorted to controlling or manipulating behavior? It happens to the best of us. We start to play those little mind games, testing the other person, pulling away to see if they will finally come to their senses.

We only resort to that behavior when we have disempowered ourselves. When we disempower our selves, we literally have forgotten our power as creators of reality. We try to force things to happen and force people to do what we want them to do. It never ends well.

In a moment of clarity, I realized that what I wanted was a happy, loving, committed relationship, and that is what I should focus on…”what” I wanted, not “who and when” I wanted it. It was an AHA moment for sure! Once I made that shift in my own perception, everything changed. I walked away in complete peace and went on to experience my desires come to fruition.

Holding on to “how” we want something to manifest is like pinching off a hose. The momentum is building and building and our desires are about to burst through into our life experience, only we are restricting, limiting, or literally blocking it from naturally flowing into our lives.

So many people are on autopilot, going through the motions and seeing the world as we were taught to see it. I notice this especially when it comes to money. Raise your hand if you heard any of the following statements as you were growing up…

”You have to work hard to get ahead”, “You have to have a certain education to be successful”, “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

Take a look at your beliefs! If you would like to experience financial abundance in your life, and you believe that the only ways you can do that is to have a certain job, work long hours, inherit money from a rich relative, or win the lottery, then you are seriously pinching off your hose!

Also, many people want financial freedom. They dream of a day when they can wake up and not have to go to work. A lifestyle that allows them to do whatever they want, each and every day. But, most of them think that will only be possible after they work hard for 30 years so that they can finally retire and enjoy life! That is so sad!

Think about that for just a moment, and you will see the absurdity. “I am going to postpone my joy and happiness for 30 plus years, work hard, climb the ladder of success, invest and save all my money instead of enjoying it, until I am in my 60’s or 70’s, and then, I will enjoy my life.”

Why limit yourself by thinking that you have to follow that same model that was set by the generations before you?

I personally have seen money come into my own life in the strangest, most unexpected ways. And, the only reason that was able to happen was because I stayed open to the idea that money could come in unexpected ways!

If you truly believe there are only one or two paths to what you want, then you are seriously tying the hands of the universe. Abraham Hicks says that when we have a desire, the universal forces line up multiple paths to the fulfillment of that desire. Not just one or two. So why limit ourselves and make it so much harder to have what we want?

And I a have seen, time and time again, that when I give the universe free reign, what shows up is way better than what I had in mind!

The bottom line is this:

When you have a desire for more money, let go of the attachment to “how’ it can come to you.

When you have a desire for a committed, happy relationship, let go of the attachment to “who” will participate.

When you have a desire for a meaningful life of freedom and bliss, let go of the limiting beliefs of “how” and “when” you can have it.

Keep your focus on “why” you have a desire. Why do you want more money? Freedom, expansion, security… Why do you want a relationship? Love, companionship, fun…

When you realize you are frustrated about something not manifesting, do and attachment check. Ask yourself if you are being limited in your thinking. Say the following mantras:

“I am open to receiving prosperity and abundance in unexpected ways.”

“I am open to love and companionship in whatever way it comes.”

“I am open to receiving all my desires in ways that align with my highest good and the highest good of all.”

Work WITH the power of the universe, not against it!

Jami Derro